Not many of us share our grief or anxieties. So now and then a friend post "I can really use your prayers today" or something like that, and then you know they are in trouble, but they really do not share much else. You just have to guess. Some do share more, but often do that in blogs such as this.
I regularly follow a blog written by a woman who bares her soul. It is sometimes gut wrenching and there is really nothing you can do but to read it, like it (as moral support), and maybe make a comment. Most of these blogs are a form of self therapy (naturally they are an attempt of education and sharing as well); they can be and are mostly anonymous, in particular when published under a pseudonym; a few of your friends may know it is you, but many of your other readers do not know you from Adam or Eve. I rely on social networking during my travels throughout the state and I like it in a lot of cases. I even wrote about it almost a year ago in this blog posts <click here>.
But why am I talking about this today?
Going through my Instagram pictures, twelve of the 220 pictures I posted feature the booze (mostly beer) that I was consuming at the time. People that like these pictures often feature pages with only beer postings.
My Facebook postings aren't much better. Although I do not post many drinking or booze picture, my latest picture is one of our visit to a microbrewery in Hampton this past Sunday (see the picture below). Even on this blog, I wrote a number of wine reviews (I need to do a Virginia brewery review one of these days). Yes, I consider myself a responsible drinker, but darn, I do advertise my drinking quite a bit.
|I took this picture this past Sunday when vising the Oozlefinch brewery at Fort Monroe in Hampton, VA|
I am so amazed about the booze oriented society we live in and that we participate in. Our family learned the other day that a dear and close friend of ours who we suspected of being an alcoholic was arrested for at least one DUI, had her license suspended and was caught driving without a license. We are not sure if she was drunk at the time, but we know she is probably looking at jail time. Last time we talked was month after her arrest and she was out on bail and she did not tell us anything. So it looks like she does not want us to know or is afraid to admit to it; the only thing she told us was that she had lost her job but sounded very positive. We did not know it then but we do know it now and are not sure what to say and what to do. She does not believe in Facebook or any other social network and there is the rub. She did not answer her phone calls and her only email address we had was through the job that she lost so we looked on line to see if she had another email address, but instead we found her mugshot and arrest record. We are stunned and have been worried sick, but again we do not know how to approach her.
I like my beer, my glass of wine, my single malt (not all at the same time or on the same day), but I do think publicly we are way too booze oriented. Is social networking part of this increase focus on booze, is it a little like I have it even better than you; I drink booze that is more expensive than the stuff you are drinking; or I have more fun than you? What ever! But is it feeding our dependence on alcohol? I wonder. Also remember, one DUI and you could be without a license and that could mean without a job.
OK people let's stop trying to poke each other's eyes out, but let's be genuinely social, interested and concerned with each other; instead of just indiscriminately liking what your friends post on Instagram or Facebook (sorry I do not do Twitter although I am being tempted in this political season). It has already been a rough season of liking things or fighting with what were friends but now all the sudden you don't like them anymore because they are trying to push their brand of politics. That is almost enough to push me to drinking. So let's stop and be interested, supportive and nice to each other and have a real social network.
I promise that I am going to be less booze oriented on my social social networking sites and more supportive of my true friends. An by the way, if you have suggestions on how to be supportive of our other friend in need let me know (but again we are not supposed to know)!